I know I’m not the first to be guilty of faking pleasure, Anyone else with me? For the longest amount of time, I found myself disappointed at my inability to fully enjoy my experience. Now I am here introducing the first installment of
Self Love Sanctuary
Self love breaks down to be many different levels, each with their own importance. A few years ago I came across an article about a female masturbation class held by Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross. Betty has been a palpable force on women’s sexual pleasure for over three decades. My experience with giving yourself pleasure was that it was sinful and a first class ticket to be damned growing up as young women in a religious setting. The moral dilemma between of being sinful was overridden by being so compelled to experience something I felt was a natural part of life. Betty opened my eyes about how as a mother, entrepreneur, or working 40 hours a week you could still find the time to self love and understand the importance of making your body feel good.
I first heard of combining Cannabis with self love when a friend made her own cannabis lube. It brought my awareness into a deeper state of what makes my body feel good instead of focusing on just an end goal. Fast forward to 2016, I get wind of this extremely talented women named Ashley Manta and all the feels of empowerment and sexual liberation arise.
This woman, who claims the grandmother of female masturbation, is one of her heroes sparked the inspiration to create this wonderful healing space. Shutting down taboos of Cannabis and Sex on so many levels we are talking on the personal level with the Canna Sexual’s Ashley Manta. Housewives come in all walks of life and finding that little bit of time to enhance the pleasure in your life is an ESSENTIAL! Check out my interview below with Ashley.
Stoned Housewife: Lets just jump into it! What would you suggest to women who are to think they are busy to with work, kids, spouses, etc to take the time to self love.
Ashley Manta: It is such a gift to prioritize our pleasure. Whether that’s one night a week where you take your vibrator into the bathtub with you or go in your room, shut the door, and light some candles to make a safe comfortable space (a sanctuary). Just make your body feel good without being goal oriented. It doesn’t have to be about getting off. Touch your body the way it feels good. That will build on itself. The more you do that, the more you want to that, and the more you can do that. It is a good habit to get into.
Stoned Hw: What products do you suggest? Let’s say you were stranded on a desert island and you did not have to worry about survival…all you had to do was masturbate, What would be THE 4 things you would have to have.
Ashley M: My dessert island tool kit would include:
- Foria Pleasure
- A nice vaporizer with a mid range THC/CBD fruity citrus terepene flower selections
- We-Vibe Touch AM: This vibrator is Rechargeable, Rumbly & Amazing
- Njoy Pure Wand: We all know about the Pure Wand. If you don’t Treat Yo Self and order yours here.
Stoned Housewife: Where is the craziest place you ever self loved?
Ashley M: My car during a summer job. I was working late so I went out to my car on break and put a blanket over me with my boyfriend on the phone and I went to town. I got off and it was glorious. Then I put on some hand sanitizer and went back to finish my shift.
Stoned Hw: I know of your previous workshop All Hands on Bits where you do live demos! Have you had one in Colorado yet?
Ashley M: Not yet, But I would really like to! I find it to be very valuable because when you see me acting out those things that I am teaching you on a body, it brings forward the, “oh that’s what that looks like!” Its always fun to have bodies present, people seem to absorb the material more.
Stoned Hw: What about masturbation on your period? I feel our moon time is slowly becoming less of a burden and more of a time of relaxing and going within, generally doing things to make your body feel better during that time.
Ashley M: I think masturbating on your period is amazing! Its actually one of the things I miss about having a period because of my IUD.
Stoned Hw: Talk about sexual freedom!
Ashley M: Yes exactly. Masturbation was necessary because sometimes I get really aroused and its really distracting. I found that happening more when I was on my period.
Stoned Hw: Have you met Betty Dodson?
Ashley M: Yes, We met and shared drinks. Being the grandmother of female masturbation, she was doing this shit in her apartment in New York in the 70s. Giving them Hitcachi’s and a hand mirror, having them lay on their backs and buzz off! She is a force and she is such a badass.
Stoned Hw: I feel like your the modern day BD. I absolutely love you! Your love of combining sex and cannabis is the encouraging other women to stand up and take back this personal power. You are the bomb.
Ashley teaches her own self love classes of various proportions, where it is optional for her to showcase the art of hand stimulation with live demonstrations. If you have interest in booking a bachelorette Cannasexual party sign up for the newsletter here to be notified of when Ashley opens up her booking!